IF YOU ARE IN IMMEDIATE DANGER CONTACT 9-1-1
If you are worried for the safety of yourself and/or your children and are thinking about leaving, consider the following safety strategies:
- Speak to an emergency shelter near you to see if there is availability (Also see our "Find A Shelter" section under Resources).
- Pack an emergency 'to go' bag, if your partner comes home and you are feeling threatened and want to leave you can grab the kids, and this bag - which will contain clothing, important documents (such as birth certificates, child tax documents, tax assessment, etc.), diapers, formula, toys, etc. so you can quickly leave the situation.
- If you do not have a phone, plan a route in which you can leave the home, and arrive to a safe place (such as a neighbour's) so you can safely call the RCMP.
- Create an emergency code with a trusted
friend, family member, or local shelter (such as I would like to order
pizza, or I am going to be late for coffee) so if you need someone else
to contact 9-1-1 for you, they can.
- Plan with your children and identify a safe place for them. Reassure them that their job is to stay safe, not to protect you.
- Set money aside. Ask friends or family members to hold money for you, or open your own banking account that your partner is not aware of.
- Be careful when reaching out for help via Internet or telephone. Erase your Internet browsing history, websites visited for resources, e-mails sent to friends/family asking for help. To learn how to erase browsing information click here. If you called for help, dial another number immediately after in case partner hits redial.
- Create a false trail. Call motels, real estate agencies and schools in a town at least six hours away from where you plan to relocate. If your partner asks where you are going give him a believable but false answer such as a friend's home in a larger city a few hours away or to your parents home (even if it is in a different province).